“Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit.”
– E.E. Cummings
Self-confidence is an attitude that you hold about yourself that allows you to move forward and achieve your goals. It is extremely important in almost every aspects of our lives, yet so many people struggle to find it. Self-confident person has a general sense of control of her own life and can do what she wishes, plans and expects.
Self-confident people are admired by others and inspire confidence in others. They face their fears head-on and tend to be risk takers. Such people tend to see their lives in a positive light even when things are not in their favor and they respect their decisions and themselves. Self-confidence means that even if things don’t go your way, you still believe that eventually, somehow, some way, they will.
On the contrary, low self-confidence isn’t a punishment. Self-confidence can be learned and acquired. Once you acquire this you would also feel satisfied. But you need to be persistent with your goal to achieve self-confidence and find ways to accomplish it.
First, and foremost thing you need to do is retrospection, which is soul-searching or self-evaluation.
Try some of the tips listed below. Don’t just read them and put them on the back burner. Really begin to practice them because as we say ‘Fake it until you make it’. And eventually you will begin to feel the foundation of self-confidence grow within you.
Stay away from negativity and bring on the positivity:
This sounds tough, but is actually the most crucial step towards your goal. You need to analyse your inner circle and keep away from those individuals who shred your confidence and put you down. Talk to people who you think are encouraging you and feel motivated in their company.
Don’t ever let yourself feel down and stay positive even if you are not having the urge for it.
Know your strengths and weaknesses:
In order to identify who you are, you must do a SWOT analysis of yourself. Go ahead, discover yourself as to where you are doing good and where you lack. Explore the opportunities for yourself and remove all the threats that act as an obstacle in your way to success. This way you have a clear idea in your mind and you could proceed accordingly.
Self-confidence comes when you start accepting yourself for who you are. You are a unique personality in a world of full of other different people. It is important that you do not beat yourself up over the things that you have trouble doing. Instead of complaining about what your weaknesses, try to find ways to improve your life. Learn to fight for yourself alone.
Set achievable goals on a regular basis and then take small steps to accomplish them. Make sure your goals are measurable and monitor your progress. Don’t get upset if you don’t accomplish all of your goals. Instead of falling back analyse various measures you could have taken to make things work. Next time you would feel more confident while handling the situations that will fall in your way.
Talk To Others:
This is the necessity, talking to other successful people would help generate a different mindset for you. Listening to other people’s challenges and accomplishments can go a long way in feeling better about yourself. You would start connecting the dots lying in the atmosphere and emerge as a better problem solver. This eventually would enhance your self-confidence.
Read motivational novels:
Sometimes, we could actually get a solution from the little things we read. It is actually the best therapy which I have been personally following. Read as much as you can, this would give you a boost. You would start feeling more satisfied and accomplished.
If you feel your self-confidence dwindling, take a look at all your accomplishments till now. Look at your family, relationships, friendships that would definitely restore the lost self-confidence in you.